FOCUS ON YOUR MATE'S BEST QUALITIES

Written by TWFYT
Friday May 31

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.”  Proverbs 18:22 NKJV

The best marriages are built by couples who try to remember the qualities that initially attracted them to one another. If you want to build a happy marriage or improve a less-than-happy one, do these: (1) List your mate’s best qualities. Write down the things you love most about him or her, and endeavor to keep those things in mind at all times. When stresses and strains surface in your relationship, as they inevitably will go, go over the list in your mind, and if necessary refer to the written copy as a reminder. (2) Focus on them. Think how your mate’s great qualities enrich your life, and how much you would miss them if he or she was not around. When you change your focus, you change your feelings. And when you change your feelings, you change your perspective, your approach, and your reactions. (3) Verbalize them. “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also…praises her” (Pr 31:29 NKJV). Your children learn how to build a great marriage or a miserable one by watching you. The thought alone should put the brakes on criticism and bring out the compliments! (4) Nurture them. “A man reaps what he sows” (Gal 6:7 NIV). People wither under complaints , whereas they thrive and grow through  praise and encouragement. Seize any moment worth celebrating and magnify it! Paul bottom-lines it: “If you love someone you will be loyal…no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground defending him” (1Co 13:7 TLB).